5 Life Lessons I learned as a single unmarried guy in my 30's.

I learned to say f*ck this a lot, but that one isnt part of the list.

Being a guy, you are constantly evolving or some might say we stop evolving beyond a certain point, I am not sure.

One might go on a limb and think we evolve backwards.

Who knows.

Who cares right?

But one thing gents is we tend to learn things the hard way. About everything really, whether it is life, responsibilities or being in relationships.

I know I did.

Here are 5 profound lessons I learned as a single guy in my 30's.

Being vulnerable is a weakness.

The moment you start to show a sign of any vulnerability and want to actually share, people run for cover.

Men especially where I come from (India) are perceived to always be strong and someone others can rely on, and that bubble bursts when you open up.

Just deal with it by yourself and be quiet about it. I get that it is hard, but you come out stronger in the end.

( I’d like to clarify that if you are suffering suicidal thoughts or having mental health problems, please do share with who ever you are comfortable with or just message me, im happy to chat)

If a man can be vulnerable and still come out on top, I salute you.

I know I had one brief moment of vulnerability and got f*cked.

People will leave.

People will leave. Friends will get married, have their own families.

Relationships will become shorter, most times they wont exist.

You will not have more than 3 friends who you can call, and most times they’d be busy too.

Your better half always has a back up (s).

The kisses shared under the stars with promises of a 7 lifetimes together won’t matter.

They always have a list of backups.

You fuck it up, and you are gone.

And believe you me, it will hit you harder than them.

You will have this one chair that you will sit on every night (even if you have other chairs in your house ) while drinking whiskey and watching TV.

Tell me if I am wrong :D also, TV is usually a history or WW2 documentary on YouTube.

People will have expectations, your personal situation doesn’t matter.

Everyone who you have surrounded yourself with is going to have expectations from you. Tangible and intangible.

Your personal situation is irrelevant.

You will hate to disappoint and it will eat at you slowly but you will have to suck it up and deal with it.

These are just some things I found out about myself, I am not sure if these resonate with you, but I would love to know if I have got these right.

Some of these apply to married men too.

Let me know in the comments.